Blogger Friend or Mean Girl attitude? Excluder or Includer? The new Generation of Mean Girls.
Every Industry comes with its up-and downside. It can’t all be happy, gloomy and full of sunshine. Same with the blogosphere and the mean girl’s attitude and ‘Blogger Friends’. Whether it groups on Instagram, ignoring people at an event or excluding others by making them feel unwanted.
I have made some great blogger friends through blogging, but I will still try to always welcome new people and make new friends. Just because I have met my absolute blogging babe Victoria doesn’t mean that I will behave arrogantly towards others and treat them second best. Be respectful, treat them like a human being and remember to be humble. Personally, I have experienced some appalling behaviour from other bloggers towards me and others recently. I pride myself on being authentic and will happily be that person who might share a negative but an honest post. I love blogging and the community, but I don’t condone people treating others like they are only second best.
Practice what you preach.
I’m a very polite person, but I hate hugging, small talk and my face is a mirror of my mood. I’m just as direct online, as I am in real life and would never fake being nice to a person just for the sake of it. In the last month, I have heard stories and personally felt the effects of bloggers excluding others. Having a close blogger pal is great, but directly making others around you feel unwelcome isn’t so great. Talking to someone at one event, but not at another isn’t great either. Being all super friendly online, but rude in real life is fake and anything but great. Remember the people that helped you: the once that got your perfect shot in the cold weather or helped you with all the difficult admin questions.
I believe that honesty is the best approach. A person can only learn and grow if they can be honest with their friends and people around them. I always call people out on their behaviour and hope others do the same with me. Just because someone is my friend doesn’t mean that I won’t tell them they are acting out of order. I am anything but overly friendly, but at least I’m authentic and my online personality represents my day to day one. But what I don’t like are the kind of people who pretend to be so amazing, kind and supportive online. Yet after getting to know them, they show their true colours and often it disappoints.
Of course, no one would be interested in following bloggers who are rude, obnoxious and act superior online. In order for them to be successful, they have to pretend to be someone else.
Stop being a mean girl. Be supportive and remember to not just be nice to people online, but also in the outside world. If you meet up with someone at least give them the feeling that you care slightly instead of making them feel unwanted. If you meet someone at an event and see them again, be nice and say hi, instead of ignoring them. Most importantly, be you online and offline. Blogger Friends are great to have, but just because you already have a clique it doesn’t give you the right to be disrespectful to others.